When we're children we are meticulously taught not to talk to strangers. Now as adults it seems as if that’s all we do. Dating and the need to find someone special is a driving force in dulling down our ‘spidy sense’ allowing for frivolous interactions whether it's on the internet, a coffee date, or meeting a guy in a dark bar. But dating and relationships don’t always play out so well. Sometimes the ones we expect to go smoothly can take an unpleasant turn leaving you disappointed and thinking: I shaved my ass for this? Follow me into the gay dating [and otherwise] arena, which can be filled with bad decisions, angst, and sometimes, downright cruelty. These cautionary tales are to remind us that maybe our mothers were right in trying to paint the act of talking to strangers with such a dangerous hue. So, to all my city gays out there: read and learn.